Have you ever felt like someone has wronged you? I mean really wronged you. Reacted angrily when you felt you just didn’t’ deserve it? Treated you in a way that felt completely unjust?
When these moments happen, we are just filled with righteous indignation. Our mind attaches itself to the wrong, and just like beading a necklace with a knot in it, we get stuck. Our thoughts get stuck, our body gets stuck, our heart gets stuck. We just don’t want to let it go.
I get it, but, have you ever truly asked yourself, why? “Why am I holding on to this?” Are we going to teach the other person a lesson? Will they better understand their wrong, if we punish them through holding on to anger? Will they decide to be a better person? In the end, does that ever really work?
I once heard someone say they worked so hard to win the fight, that they lost the relationship. Today, I challenge you to use your anger for healing rather than hurting, use your anger for deepening understanding rather than defeating understanding.